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CHILDREN PRODUCTION MACHINES
For generations, many women have been raised with the belief that marriage is the ultimate destination of every woman and that her greatest responsibility after marriage is to give birth to children. While having children can be a beautiful part of marriage, the idea that a woman exists primarily to produce children is a harmful mindset that needs to change.
There are men who enter marriage without truly understanding what marriage means. Some marry because they want a woman who will give them children, cook their meals, clean their homes, and take care of their needs. They see a wife more as a responsibility assigned to the household than as a human being with dreams, emotions, ambitions, and personal goals.
This is where the problem begins.
A woman is not a “children production machine.” She is a person.
She has dreams she wants to pursue, places she wants to go, things she wants to learn, and a life she wants to build. She may want to become a doctor, teacher, entrepreneur, writer, lawyer, artist, or anything else her heart desires. Marriage should not mean the death of those dreams.
Unfortunately, some women discover this painful reality after walking down the aisle. The moment they become wives, society begins counting their usefulness through childbirth. Relatives start asking when the first child will arrive. Neighbours begin making comments when pregnancy does not happen quickly. Sometimes, even the husband begins treating his wife as though she has failed simply because they have not had a child.
What makes it worse is that the blame is often placed entirely on the woman.
People forget that fertility is not something a woman controls by simply wishing for it. Pregnancy involves both partners, and difficulties with having children can have different causes. Yet, instead of showing understanding and seeking appropriate help together, some husbands insult, pressure, or emotionally distance themselves from their wives.
Imagine loving someone, sharing your life with that person, and then discovering that the main reason they married you was because they wanted children.
That realization can break a person's heart.
Marriage should be much bigger than childbirth.
Marriage should be about companionship, friendship, communication, loyalty, sacrifice, respect, emotional support, and building a future together. Children can add joy and meaning to a family, but they should be a part of the marriage, not the entire purpose of it.
This is why men need proper understanding before entering marriage. Education is not only about attending school and obtaining certificates. A person can be highly educated academically and still lack emotional maturity. Likewise, someone who did not have the opportunity to receive much formal education can still learn, grow, and become a responsible partner.
A man must understand that his wife is not his property. She is his partner.
He should learn how to communicate with her, respect her opinions, support her dreams, appreciate her sacrifices, and care about her emotional well-being. He should understand that pregnancy and childbirth can place significant demands on a woman's body and life. Therefore, the decision to have children should be approached as a shared responsibility between husband and wife.
Men should also ask themselves difficult questions before marriage: “Do I want a wife, or do I simply want a mother for my children?” “Am I ready to love this woman even when children do not come immediately?” “Will I support her dreams after marriage?” “Do I understand the responsibilities that come with being a husband?”
These questions matter because marriage is a lifetime partnership, not a production contract.
A woman is not a machine.
She is a human being.
And she deserves to be married, loved, respected, and treated as one.
