There is good in everyone, and it will prevail. If you haven’t seen the good in someone, you simply haven’t waited long enough. While I constantly try to adopt this optimistic mentality, there are some people in which I have trouble honestly believing this to be true. Are some people just purely bad? What is the line between someone who has done a bad thing and someone who is actually a bad person.
There are certain people I have come in contact with in life that have done awful things. I just can’t seem to move past it and, “wish them well”,Perhaps some people even view me as a “bad person,” although I sincerely hope not! My conclusion is pretty straight forward, yet a difficult concept to accept. People are not bad they just don care about you and your feelings as much as you care about theirs, thus creating a huge margin for error. A margin that can create the potential for disappointment. Every single moment of our lives we have choices. Choices are made based on personal priorities. If someone’s priority is not you, their choices may result in betrayal or disappointment.
I think humans are fairly emotional and sometimes insecure beings. We never want to admit that we cared more about someone than they did for us. In our minds we should be every person’s top priority, and if they betray us they are simply not a good person.
In reality, you cared for someone more than they cared about you, and you were let down. Don’t beat yourself up over it. I wouldn’t say you should lose sleep over those who have done you wrong until the end of time, but I also don’t think it’s necessary or realistic to wish the best for someone who clearly prioritized other things over you and your feelings. There is always a choice. My conclusion is that in relationships (parental, romantic, friendship, work, etc), priorities may be conflicting, resulting in hurtful actions. You might go “all in” and the other person may not reciprocate those feelings. However, this does not make that individual a bad person.
Recognize where you stand with others, and don’t prioritize someone who wouldn’t do the same for you. Understanding this may help you make peace with others who have treated you unjustly. Based on my experiences, yes some people can be. It’s not their fault that they are unwell. We must forgive them and pray for them.
Most people are good and kind. They tend to reach out to others with love and kindness. They do stand up for what is right. They are kind to the weak. They protect those who are hurting. They help the unhoused and the poor. They don’t participate in violence against women. They care for animals.
Let’s be grateful for the good people. They make the world a better place. Let’s pray for them, so God can continue to bless them with his grace, and keep them safe.
Big hug everyone. How I would define a bad person is someone who consistently and willfully hurts or causes injury to other people for their own gain or pleasure. There are bad people, but I do think they are in the minority. Most people will strive to be good, even if they don't quite get there. It's more helpful to look at the reasons they may be bad, rather than just dismissing them as such. I think the bad element comes from psychopathy, narcissism, certain disorders and mental illnesses, people who have been brutalised, abused, damaged and just plain old ignorance. I'm not saying these things justify anyone doing something bad, or that the law should be more lenient on them, but maybe more time should be spent on looking at and tackling the causes of it.
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