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Super Eagles player Taiwo Awoniyi posted on twitter a picture of himself and his wife while on vacation, and look at how people started tearing his wife down and who were some of the loudest people doing it? Men.
Men who have never met this woman were making all sorts of degrading comments about her, simply because she did not fit whatever image of a footballer's wife they had created in their heads.
At this point, it is almost like there is a particular type of woman some men believe successful footballers are supposed to marry. She must be a certain shape, a certain complexion, look like a "baddie", dress a certain way and basically fit the fantasy they have created online.
Then these same men will turn around and complain that genuine women no longer exist.
They will complain that relationships have become transactional.
They will complain that women only want money.
But who created this system?
Many men genuinely do not know what they want.
A man will meet a woman when he has nothing. She stays with him, supports him, builds with him and loves him when there is no money, no fame and no attention from anybody.
The moment his situation changes, suddenly his taste changes too.
The woman who stood by him when nobody knew his name is now "too simple."
Suddenly, he wants a "baddie."
He wants the woman everybody will notice when she walks into a room.
He starts chasing a completely different kind of woman because now he can afford the lifestyle that comes with it.
Then when that relationship eventually falls apart, the same man will come online shouting, "Women are wicked. Women are ungrateful. Never trust women."
But what exactly did you expect?
You spent years teaching yourself and other men that a woman's value increases when she looks expensive, has a certain body, carries a certain image and can give you status.
Then you are surprised when women also start looking at what a man can provide.
You cannot build a transactional system and then complain when people start behaving transactional.
As a relationship therapist, I will tell you this plainly: the only way transactional relationships will reduce is for men to stop rewarding the very things they claim to hate.
Stop discarding loyal women because your circumstances changed.
Stop making women feel that being "baddie" is more valuable than being a good partner.
Stop demanding loyalty while constantly chasing appearances and status.
If men genuinely want relationships built on love, loyalty, character and partnership, then they have to start choosing and rewarding those things.
You cannot keep creating the market and then complain about what the market is selling.
At the end of the day, a healthy relationship should not be built around how impressive two people look to outsiders, but around how well they treat each other when nobody is watching. Character, loyalty, peace and genuine companionship should never become less valuable simply because a person's financial situation has changed.
