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Learning to be satisfied in your singleness is a part of contentment with being alone. A genuinely single individual is one who is emotionally, physically, spiritually, and intellectually complete, requiring no one else. Single people who are content and have a strong feeling of their own identity and completeness within themselves and in relationship with God. Only whole people are at ease alone because they are inherently entire. Regardless of whether they are in a relationship, they are able to flourish and grow. A relationship is a blessing for such individuals; it's icing on the cake.
Someone who is genuinely single is someone who is complete physically, emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually without relying on anybody else.
A whole person is someone who, above all else, possesses a healthy self-concept. Self-hatred and a sense of inadequacy are problems for a lot of individuals. Any relationship will be difficult for such a person. Because it impacts the health of relationships, healthy self-love is crucial for personal completeness.
What was the greatest of all commandments, someone once inquired of Jesus.
"You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind," Jesus answered. The first and most significant commandment is this. And the second is comparable: "Love your neighbor as yourself." The entire Law and Prophets are dependent on these two commandments" (Matt. 22:37-40, emphasis added). Our primary responsibility is to wholeheartedly love God. Because God loved us first, we are able to love him and, in turn, love ourselves in the sense of having a positive self-image as someone who is loved and appreciated by God. It will be challenging to love others or even to properly relate to them if we don't love ourselves.
Second, a whole person has a solid and clear faith. We are well on our way to wholeness when we understand what we believe and why, when we know what the Word of God says and are devoted to obeying it, and when we have a strong grasp of God's standards for our personal lives and are determined to live by them.
Growing one's own roots is a third attribute of wholeness. You are planting your own roots when you derive your motivation and power from within rather than from others. Most people let other people rule their lives. Others' opinions drive their wardrobe selections, purchasing decisions, and thought processes. They just agree with the ideas and beliefs of others since they are unsure and uncomfortable with their own.
Full individuals are self-driven, internally oriented, self-confident, and so deeply embedded in their values that they can maintain them with courage and conviction, even in the face of apparent contradictions being by yourself.
There are many benefits to being a single person, especially for a believer. One of the most important of these is the chance to fully concentrate on building a close relationship with God and growing spiritually. Between their spiritual interests and the everyday obligations and difficulties of marriage, married individuals, even dedicated believers, must share their time and attention.
In his First Epistle to the Corinthians, Paul made the same argument when outlining the advantages of singleness:
I believe it is better for you to stay as you are given the current situation. Have you tied the knot? Don't look for a divorce. Are you single? Don't go wife searching. However, if
You have not sinned if you marry, and a virgin has not sinned if she marries. I'd rather you be free of worry, but people who get married will have a lot of difficulties in this life. I want to save you from this. How may an unmarried man please the Lord by attending to His business? But the interests of a married man are divided, and he is concerned with the concerns of this world and how to appease his wife. A virgin or an unmarried woman is worried about the things of the Lord: Her goal is to dedicate herself to the Lord in body and spirit. However, a married woman is focused on the world's problems and how to make her husband happy. I'm saying this for your benefit, not to put limits on you, but so that you may live in a proper way with complete commitment to the Lord (1 Cor. 7:26–28; 32–35).
Paul advises single individuals to dedicate this time in their life to "the Lord's business" and to develop "undivided loyalty" to him. Single individuals are free to devote themselves entirely to God's concerns because they are not constrained by the bonds of marriage or other meaningful relationships. Utilize this time in your life. Learn to love God and go deep with Him by yourself first. Take your time getting into a relationship. Because once you become deeply involved with another person, especially in a marriage relationship, your time and attention will be split between them and your worship and service to God, you should firmly embed your spiritual roots in God right away.
Strive to maximize your potential as a single individual. Like Adam, learn to be utterly absorbed in God right now. Become so absorbed with God that He is forced to disrupt you in order to bring another individual into your life. Think of singleness as a blessing and a perfect chance to develop your character. Because you won't feel obligated to appease anyone but God, you'll have a more open mind, a single-minded dedication, and fewer distractions.
