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One of the worst qualities prevalent among people is condemnation and backbiting of others. This bad quality creates annoyance and enmity among friends and family members and can destroy families. The warm and cordial atmosphere may change into a cold and unfriendly one through such hostile actions, which may even lead to murder and other criminal acts. There are various reasons for such behaviour, like jealousy, anger, vengeance, and hostility.
Some people resort to defamatory words in order to satisfy their own ego, to attract others’ attention towards themselves, or to pretend to be sympathetic with someone else. But it is rarely the case that slanderous statements are based on good intentions.
Therefore, a wise and clever man should ignore such statements. He must always analyze the statements of the speaker in order not to be deceived or influenced by his evil insinuations.
One of the points for men to remember is that generally their mothers, sisters, and brothers despite their apparent friendship do not enjoy a good relationship with their wives. The reason is that a man before marriage spent years with his parents where he did not have much independence. His parents, who worked hard to bring him up, expect him to be helpful to them in their old age. Even after they marry their son off and apparently give him indulgence, they expect him to conform to their own will and wishes. They like their son to pay more attention to them than to his wife. But the reality is that when a man starts a marital life, he makes a great deal of effort for his new family, wife, and independence. He directs his love towards his wife and works hard in this connection. The more he steps in this direction, the farther he goes away from his parents.
Thus, his mother and sister(s) specifically feel offended. They regard their new bride as a threat who would be taking their young boy away from them. They might even blame their bride for separating their boy from his family. Mothers may sometimes think that the best way of confronting this danger is by implementing ways of lessening their son’s affection towards their wives. A mother of this kind would then start to point out her daughter-in-law’s deficiencies, spread lies about her, speak defamatory words about her, conspire against her, etc.
If a man is simple or naive, he might even be influenced by his mother’s defamatory statements. He would then become a tool in the hands of his family, after which he would lose interest in his wife. Under his parents’ influence, the man would start to moan and pick up faults with his wife. He would criticize her on any possible occasion. As a result, the family house could turn into a cold and dull place.
Instigation of men by their mothers and sisters could lead to rows and even fights between a man and his wife. A wife in this condition might resort to drastic measures such as committing suicide. A newly married woman became so frustrated with the bad attitude of her mother-in-law that she burnt herself to death.
Therefore, criticisms, bad attitudes, and defamatory words of mother, sister, and brothers-in-law can be very harmful, and thus a man must be aware of their nuisance. Of course, it is not possible to stop people from talking, but it is possible to neutralize their talks.
