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Although a husband and wife, who form a joint family life, share and cooperate in running the affairs of their house, they may have different opinions over certain matters. A man might feel that it should be he who should decide about family affairs, with his wife’s indisputable agreement. At the same time his wife may object to her role as the obedient party. Arguments and rows may then start because both parties attempt to establish their authority over the other. The best solution to such a problem is that both should try to refrain from acting as superior to the other, and try to resolve their problems through dialogue and deep understanding. This would only be feasible if both of them stop being stubborn.
Some men order their wives to do many things and if are confronted with resistance, they think it right to become annoyed, to punish or even to physically hurt their wives. This approach is not correct at all. The pagan men in Arabia before the advent of Islam teased and beat their wives and the prophet of Islam (SAW) condemned this bad act and said:
“Every man who slaps the face of his wife, God orders the angel in charge of Hell, to slap him seventy times in Hell and every man who puts his hand on the hairs of a Muslim woman (pulls her) his hands will be hammered with firing nails in Hell.”
The Prophet of Islam (SAW) prohibited the beating of wives except in rare cases, where the punishment is necessary. The prophet (SAW) also said: “I am astonished at a man who beats his wife, whereas it is he himself, more than his wife, who deserves a beating. O people, do not beat women with sticks because such an act has Qisas (reprisal).”
The man who beats his wife and oppresses her will be punished in this world and in the Hereafter. This is an oppression against a weak person who has come to a husband’s house with many hopes and desires and wants to live in peace under his protection. Woman seeks refuge with a person whom she expects to be her supporter and sympathizer and who will assist her in times of difficulties. Woman is a security deposited by God. Does one behave with God’s security in this manner?
Imam Ali (R.A) stated: ‘Women are entrusted to men, and as such are not owners of their fortunes and misfortunes. They are with you like a trust of Allah; so do not hurt them and do not make (the life) difficult for them. A man who hits his wife, inflicts such damage on her soul as to lead her to think of his unfaithfulness.
If his wife hides a letter from him, he would think that it is a love letter. If she expresses her love less than before, he would doubt her sincerity. He might even think that since his daughter does not look like him, his wife must have committed adultery. All such examples can be regarded as a firm proof of a woman’s infidelity by the suspicious husband. The situation becomes worse if a relative or friend agrees with his suspicion. Families who are affected by this illness suffer a great deal. the man would act like a detective around the house, and his wife would feel as if she was being kept in custody. They would both suffer mentally and their marriage would become endangered. They might even resort to divorce or murder.
There are many cases of homicide and suicide which have occurred as a result of suspicious. Under these conditions, a man and his wife should be aware of the possible grave consequences and, through wisdom and understanding, repel any danger which could threaten their marriage or even their lives. They only need to be aware of the potential danger and be able to think clearly in order to overcome their problem. A man should give up his fanaticism and extreme jealousy. He must act logically. He must be aware that convicting his wife of adultery is not a trivial matter, and that such an allegation needs definite proof.
