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There is no one in this world who has all the qualities and free from all the faults. Some people may be too fat or too thin. Their mouth may be too big, have large nose or big teeth. Others may be dirty, impolite, shy, cheeky, depressed, bad-tempered, jealous, lazy or selfish. Some women may not be good cooks or talented hostesses. Some people may eat too much or spend lavishly. In brief, everyone is imperfect and no one in this world can be regarded as a perfect being.
Men usually, before marriage, imagine their ideal women to be devoid of all faults. They ignore this fact that there is no angel-like figure in our universe. These men, once married, find their ideal wives not to be perfect and thus start to point out their faults. They might even regard their marriage as failure and call themselves “Unlucky”. These men are always moaning and do not even spare the trivial faults of their wives.
Some men exaggerate the faults so much that they always appear before them like high mountains. They occasionally mention them before friends and relatives. As a result, the foundation of their marital life starts trembling. The women becomes depressed and loss interest in her husband and family. She would think it illogical to work in the house of someone who criticizes her. She might even take retaliatory measures.
A sample conversation might be the following: The husband says, “What an ugly big nose you have;” The wife replies, “In any case, it is better than your ugly face and ill-formed body.” The husband retorts, “Your feet smell bad,” and the wife replies, “shut up your big mouth etc.”
In such a case, they become outspoken and constantly condemn and criticize each other and the atmosphere of the home which should be filled with serenity and compassion turns into a setting for quarrels, fault finding and humiliation. If they continue to live in this way, they will not even have a single happy day because a home which has no serenity, love or affection is not a source of comfort and happiness.
Moreso, a man who regards himself as unlucky and his marriage as a failure, and a woman who is constantly being humiliated, are both prone to mental disorders and other such a case.
If the quarrels and backbiting increase and result in divorce or separation, the husband and wife will both be miserable, especially if they have children.
Society does not have mush respect for a divorce. Moreover, a divorce would inflict economic losses on a man, which are not easily repairable. This is especially true if he wants to re-marry, since he would also have to spend money on his second marriage. Furthermore, it is not at all clear that a divorcee is able to find another woman who would live up to his expectations.
Re-marriage would not be easy for him because of his past record. Even if he finds another woman, she would definitely posses certain faults also. She may even turn out to be worse than his first wife. He would then have to cope with her. This is because some men are too proud to confess their shortcomings. It is rare to find a man who is fully satisfied with his second marriage. It has even been seen that some men return to their first wives.
Dear Brother! why should you look at your wife with a view of finding her faults and why do you place so mush importance on her trivial defects? why do you magnify her deficiencies so much that it cause suffering for you and your family?
Have you ever seen a perfect woman? Are you perfect yourself? What are trivial deficiencies worth that you endanger your marriage for their sakes?
Be certain that if you look at your wife a logical and fair view, you would see many good points about her. You look and see that her merit would outweigh her distasteful and thus forbids all from finding other people's faults.
The Prophet. (SAW) of Allah Stated: “O you who express to be Muslim by tongue only but faith has not entered your hearts. Do not indulge in backbiting others and do not set out to find their (because) whoever picks up fault with others would be criticized by Allah and even if such a person is at his house, he would be disgraced.
