Writers 
Many people enter relationships with selfish motives. They are not genuinely interested in knowing their partners, building a meaningful connection, or creating something that will last. Instead, they behave like leechesโconstantly taking, demanding, and feeling entitled to whatever their partner has.
One dangerous mindset that has become common is the belief that money is proof of love. โIf a man truly loves you, he will spend on you.โ โIf a woman loves you, she will spend on you.โ These statements sound romantic, but taken too far, they turn relationships into financial transactions.
Letโs be balanced: there is nothing wrong with spending on your partner. Being stingy, selfish, or unwilling to support someone you love is not admirable. But you must also consider the financial reality of the person you are with. Asking for extravagant things when you know your partner cannot afford them is not loveโit is selfishness.
If someone sincerely tells you, โI cannot help you financially right now,โ why should your response be insults, passive-aggressive posts, or emotional manipulation? Why call someone stingy because they genuinely could not give you what you requested?
Think about it: do you believe they were happy that they couldn't help you?
A mature person should understand that sometimes people simply do not have the money. Your partner is not an ATM. Their inability to provide something at a particular moment does not automatically mean they don't love or value you.
Men and women alike need to learn this.
You should be able to feed yourself, take care of yourself, and sort yourself out when necessary. Self-reliance is not gender-based. Whatever your man or woman does for you should be jaraโan extra, a blessing, something appreciatedโnot an obligation you feel entitled to.
The moment you believe someone owes you their money simply because they are your partner, something has gone terribly wrong.
And manipulation is an even bigger red flag. If you insult someone, abuse them, block them, guilt-trip them, or deliberately punish them because they refused to give you money, that is not love. That is financial manipulation and emotional exploitation.
At the same time, men need to hear this too. Some men have become so obsessed with proving their love financially that they measure a woman's affection by how much they can spend on her. Likewise, some women have been conditioned to measure love by gifts, money, luxury, and material possessions.
Both mindsets are dangerous.
Love should not be measured by the size of someone's wallet.
Your partner is your mate, not your financial servant. Support each other when you can, understand each other's limitations, and appreciate what is given freely.
And never forget: being loved does not mean being entitled to everything your partner owns. A healthy relationship should make two people stronger, not leave one person constantly dependent, resentful, pressured, or financially drained.
Because when money becomes the condition for love, eventually, both people may discover that what they thought was love was actually a transaction.
Get sense. Grow up. Love properly.
