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One thing I've had to learn is that being capable and feeling capable are two completely different things.
You can be good at something and still doubt yourself.
You can have done difficult things before and still be scared when something new comes along.
You can have evidence that you are capable and still have days where your brain says, “Are we actually sure about this?”
I've had those moments.
Probably more than I'd like to admit.
There have been situations where, from the outside, I probably looked like I knew exactly what I was doing.
Meanwhile, inside my head, I was trying to figure out the next five steps.
And I think that's something people don't talk about enough.
We sometimes assume confidence comes first.
Like one day you'll suddenly wake up and feel completely prepared for everything you're about to do.
I've discovered that it doesn't always happen that way.
Sometimes you do the thing while you're still nervous.
Sometimes you apply even though you're not completely convinced you'll get it.
Sometimes you walk into a room knowing you might be one of the least experienced people there.
Sometimes you start learning something and immediately realize just how much you don't know.
And you do it anyway.
I've started thinking that maybe that's what confidence actually looks like sometimes.
Not feeling invincible.
Just refusing to let the fact that you're unsure stop you from trying.
Because I've noticed something about myself.
Whenever I learn something new, there's always that uncomfortable stage where I suddenly become very aware of how much I don't know.
And it's tempting to interpret that feeling as incompetence.
But they're not the same thing.
Not knowing something doesn't mean you're incapable of learning it.
Being inexperienced doesn't mean you're incapable of becoming good at it.
And struggling with something doesn't automatically mean you're not meant to do it.
Sometimes, you're simply a beginner.
And beginners are allowed to be awkward.
They're allowed to ask questions.
They're allowed to get things wrong.
They're allowed to need more time.
They're allowed to look at something and think, “Hmm... I have absolutely no idea what I'm doing.” 😂
Then they learn.
Then they try again.
Then, eventually, something that once seemed difficult becomes normal.
I've also realized that some of the things I'm proudest of weren't things I felt particularly confident about when I started.
I didn't always have a perfect plan.
I didn't always have all the resources.
I didn't always know exactly how things would turn out.
I just knew I wanted to try.
And sometimes, that was enough to get me moving.
So now, when I don't feel confident about something, I'm trying not to immediately take that feeling as a warning sign.
Sometimes it's simply unfamiliar.
Sometimes I'm stretching myself.
Sometimes I'm about to learn something new.
And sometimes, yes, maybe I genuinely need to step back and reconsider.
But I don't want fear to automatically make that decision for me.
I think there's a difference between “I can't do this” and “I don't know how to do this yet.”
Those two sentences may sound similar, but they lead to very different places.
One closes the door.
The other leaves it open.
So I'm learning to leave mine open a little longer.
To give myself the chance to become good at things before deciding I'm not capable of them.
To remember what I've already survived when something new makes me nervous.
And to understand that confidence doesn't always arrive before the work.
Sometimes...
you do the work first.
And confidence quietly catches up later.